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1﹑喜愛干淨、安靜、有序的生存環境。 2﹑好客, 喜愛烹调, 愛打点自己的窝。 3﹑主動、積極、樂觀、負責是我的人生態度。 4﹑習慣獨自思考與檢討, 懂得尊重他人必受人尊重的道理。 5﹑清楚自己的缺點, 坦然面對自己的不足。 6﹑在順境中感恩, 在逆境中心存喜樂。

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 想一下你最近一次感受到的消極情緒,例如壓力、憤怒或挫折。當你處於那種消極情緒時你在想些什麼?是充滿了混亂的思緒?還是陷於麻木,無法思考?下次當你發現自己處於非常緊張的狀態時,或是你感到氣憤或受挫時,停下來。是的,對,停下來。不管你在做什麼,停下來坐上一分鐘。坐著的時候,讓自己完全沉浸在那種消極情緒之中。讓那種消極情緒吞噬你,給自己一分鐘的時間去真切地體會那種情緒,不要欺騙自己。花整整一分鐘的時間——但只有一分鐘——去體會那種情緒,別的什麼也不要做。

 

當一分鐘結束時,問自己:“我是否想在今天餘下的時間裏繼續保持這種消極情緒?”一旦你允許自己完全沉浸在那種情緒當中並真切體會到它,你就會驚奇地發現那種情緒很快就消失了。如果你覺得還需要點時間來保持那種情緒,沒關係,再給自己一分鐘的時間去體會它。如果你覺得自己已經充分體會了那種情緒,那就問自己是否願意在今天餘下的時間裏繼續保持那種消極的情緒。如果不願意,那就深呼吸。呼氣的時候,把所有的消極情緒都釋放出去。

 

這個方法似乎很簡單——幾乎是太過簡單了,但卻非常有效。通過給自己空間真正體會消極情緒,你是在處理這種情緒,而不是將其壓制下去然後儘量不加理會。通過給予消極情緒所需的空間和關注,你實際上是在消解其力量。當你沉浸在那種情緒之中,並且明白它只是一種情緒時,你就擺脫了它的控制。你可以清理頭腦並繼續做事.

 

Think about the last time you felt a negative emotion-like stress, anger, or frustration. What was going through your mind as you were going through that negativity? Was your mind cluttered with thoughts? Or was it paralyzed, unable to think? The next time you find yourself in the middle of a very stressful time, or you feel angry or frustrated, stop. Yes, that’s right, stop. Whatever you’re doing, stop and sit for one minute. While you’re sitting there, completely immerse yourself in the negative emotion.

 

Allow that emotion to consume you. Allow yourself one minute to truly feel that emotion. Don’t cheat yourself here. Take the entire minute-but only one minute-to do nothing else but feel that emotion. When the minute is over, ask yourself, “Am I willing to keep holding on to this negative emotion as I go through the rest of the day?”Once you’ve allowed yourself to be totally immersed in the emotion and really feel it, you will be surprised to find that the emotion clears rather quickly.

 

If you feel you need to hold on to the emotion for a little longer, that is Ok. Allow yourself another minute to feel the emotion. When you feel you’ve had enough of the emotion, ask yourself if you’re willing to carry that negativity with you for the rest of the day. If not, take a deep breath. As you exhale, release all that negativity with your breath.

 

 This exercise seems simple-almost too simple. But, it is very effective. By allowing that negative emotion the space to be truly felt, you are dealing with the emotion rather than stuffing it down and trying not to feel it. You are actually taking away the power of the emotion by giving it the space and attention it needs. When you immerse yourself in the emotion, and realize that it is only emotion, it loses its control. You can clear your head and proceed with your task.

 

 

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